Self-Compassion guru Kristin Neff was in Minneapolis on April 6th for a workshop on Self-Compassion and Emotional Resilience. I wasn’t able to attend so I asked Madia Barber, Social Emotional Learning Facilitator at MPS to share her experience with us for this week’s Mindfulness Message.
“The Kristen Neff seminar was phenomenal. I am so grateful I was able to attend! Neff beautifully explained the three components of self-compassion: self-kindness vs. self-judgement; common humanity vs. isolation; and mindfulness vs. over-identification.
Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgement:
- Treating self with care and understanding rather than harsh judgement
- Actively soothing and comforting oneself
Common Humanity vs. Isolation:
- Seeing own experience as part of larger human experience not isolating or abnormal
- Recognizing that life is imperfect
Mindfulness vs. Over-identification:
- Allows us to “be” with painful feelings as they are
- Avoids extremes of suppressing or running away with painful feelings
I thoroughly enjoyed the seminar, but I found myself struggling to understand the difference between self-compassion and mindfulness. They are strongly linked, but Neff explains the difference:
Mindfulness vs. Self-Compassion
- Mindfulness accepts painful experience without resistance, “being” with things as they are
- Compassion wishes the experiencer to be free from suffering, “active” comfort and soothing
In the end, I walked away knowing that I definitely want to read her book and that mindfulness and self-compassion are strongly connected.”
(Surbhi) Madia Barber
Minneapolis Public Schools
Social Emotional Learning Facilitator
Madia just sent me the attached flyer about this class on Wednesday! How timely!
Educator Self Care and Sustainability: From Surviving To Thriving
Wednesday, April 20th from 4:30pm-7:30pm at the Davis Center Assembly Room
eCompass Course # 91421
Learn more about Kristin Neff:
The Three Elements of Self Compassion
Kristin Neff's Guided Meditations
Test how self-compassionate you are
Much gratitude to Madia for her collaboration and contribution to today’s Mindful Message!